Dealing With Age Barrier In A Relationship
02. September 2011
WHEN a person is in love age does not really matter,a popular saying state. But in reality! Does this saying still applies? I am pretty sure each one of us had different opinions on it. Which brings me to this question, if you are attracted to someone older or younger than you will you continue that affection?
A. Know the right age for you
If you feel attractive to someone who is younger or older than you think 100 times first before you take the plunge. Yeah, its is a common cliche that age do not really matter but in truth it counts in a way. It would be best if you would know what is the ideal age gap between you and your partner. If you honestly think that you are comfortable dating someone who is younger or older than you then do so, just be honest with yourself.
B. Is it really an attraction?
Before you plunge into a relationship with a person younger or older than you, make an assessment first if you are really attracted to this person. Try to figure out if what you feel for that person is love or mere attraction because of his or her age. Remember to succeed in a relationship couples should share common interest and feel genuine love for each other.
C. Why that person?
Try to honestly ask yourself if you are really happy with this person in your life. Are you really comfortable doing activities with this person who is older or younger than you? Aside from examining yourself, try also to ask your mate why he or she prefer you when you are older or younger than his or her previous lover? If your self examination provides positive answers to the questions above then age gab could not be a problem in your relationship.
D. Get your friend’s opinion
It would be best that aside from yourself and your potential mate, try to also get the opinion of your friends on the matter. The opinion of our friends are of great value on this situation since what they are after is you welfare. If your friends offers opposition to your relationship hear their side and later evaluate if their opinions have some merits or not. Like your family, your friends are very special persons in your life so always take time to time to hear their in your every relationship.
E. Pulse of your family
One of the closest person in a person’s life is his or her family.It would just be right that you also get your family’s viewpoint on the person you are going to have relationship with. As a group of person who care for you, it would be nice if you take into consideration your family’s advice on your incoming relationship. To test if the person you love is really sincere in his or her intention, take time to invite your date to meet your folks. Your parents took care of you so as a sign of respect, it would be good that you consider their side, before plunging into a relationship to someone who is younger or older than you.